70 thoughts on “WILLPOWER & Depression: How to get & stay motivated! | Kati Morton

  1. I have to get up, get dressed, make my bed, make breakfast because I have three kids. It’s still hard for me , I just pretend it’s easy.

  2. Kati, thank you so much for your videos. They help a lot. Watching you make me hopeful because it shows me that there is people out there that can understand me and help me with compassion and sweetness. Really, thank you (sorry for my bad english)

  3. The answer is very obvious. If you can't get motivated you aren't doing what you should be. If you are going to work and hate it you probably have mastered that position and now it's too easy for you. Time to aim higher. Not being motivated is literally your deepest core telling you to do something else. When you are actually trying to hit a goal you don't need motivation. You get up and do the work because the goal is so large, and you know it needs to get done. Once you hit that goal and it becomes easy is when you are no longer excited. The goal is completed and you're just doing the same thing because that's "just what you do". You need to dream bigger. Once you complete the goal dream even bigger. Working towards a massive dream and seeing little pieces of progress being made over time will motivate you to keep going. If there's nothing to shoot for you're just wasting your time.

  4. Hello! Thank you so much for your videos. I have a few questions:
    I often feel like I use depression as an excuse to not do things, for example whenever I start feeling bad I usually do things that I like and ONLY those things, none of my obligations. I try to distract myself by watching movies, sleeping or lately, I've been going out with my friends almost every day. But then I feel guilty because I feel like if I had "REAL" depression I wouldn't go out but when I'm with my friends is the only time I feel happy and even then I need to really focus on that moment because if not my mind automatically goes back to bad thoughts. I guess I'm not explaining myself very well but my question is: How do I stop feeling guilty about doing things I like and how do I stop invalidating my own mental illness?

  5. Hey Kati, Thank you so much for your videos!! I’ve been seeing a therapist for about 3 months now and she just now reccommended I see a phyciatrist for a phycological evaluation. I’m really nervous because I don’t know what’s going to happen. Could you please help me understand the purpose of a phycological evaluation and what’s going to happen? Thanks ❤️

  6. I really needed this! Especially as I have college exams in January and need to study and put in extra work! Finding the motivation to do it is a huge struggle 🙁 so thank you! This helped me a lot :))

  7. What about if you're already on medication? Just started therapy but she doesn't say anything to me, she just listens. I need more feedback

  8. I'm so happy I found this recent vid of yours ! I WISH with all my heart that you get to see this comment – I've listened to everything you said here and truth be told, everything sounds wonderful and helpful. But, when I look into myself I feel like I deeply do not care or at least do not care enough to feel hopeful with myself finding motivation to do anything, mainly school. I have depression and feel suicidal a lot and sadly even though I do go to therapy for it, I feel like my therapist doesn't really care and just nods away and keeps me feeling more and more sad as my sessions go by…like literally, he just adds more existential crises problem in each and every session and it truly depresses me. I don't want to take medication, it's not something I want to put in my body (the same way some ppl don't want to take the pill, not because it doesn't want; only I wouldn't want those synthetic hormones in my body ect). I feel SO incredibly lost and school is taking too long and no matter what I try, I don't feel like there's hope for me essentially. I'm 25 and studying my dream major, Psychology and my big dream was to be a Clinical Psychologist and help ppl…only to end up as a suicidal individual that doesn't know how to get better and is struggling with depression and constant suicidal thoughts. If it helps, I'm 25 and a female and absolutely adore your vids and how caring yet professional they all are. I hope to God that you get to see this comment as what you're doing is my dream and I would be honored to know your thoughts on my situation and what I can do to help myself…please.

  9. #KATIFAQ YES. I think this is my problem. I'm staying with a girlfriend and her husband over Christmas break. We are in school together both getting our Masters in counseling. I think she was concerned about me so asked me to stay with them. I know I should get out of bed and shower or do something but I just can't. Feels like all of my energy is just gone. Going to see a therapist on Fridsy for first time in 10 years. But don't know if that is going to help if I can't do what they tell me to feel better. I KNOW what I should be doing…I'm studying to be a counselor for God sake…I know what I'd tell someone else. But why can't I just do it?!?! I'm frustrated and mad but not mad enough to change. I just hurt.

  10. I'm in the middle of a struggle with an eating disorder and I can feel it spiralling out of control. I set myself impossible goals but every single night i give up and end up eating unhealthily. But every time I eat, I self harm. I go to therapy but I haven't told her about my recent struggles. I end up crying, self harming and panicing every night and it feels awful. I still have the eating disorder thoughts but my actions don't line up with them anymore and it's so hard and I really dont know what to do, I can't cope with this much longer. It's leaving me upset, suicidal and disgusted. Please help me.

  11. This is a great video, I've been struggling with depression (on and off) for 7 years now and I still haven't found a way to deal with this. it's the most frustrating and depressing thing and I have yet to encounter a therapist who actually understands how hard it can be to get up and do things when you are depressed.
    Right now I am not in a depressive episode and it's such a huge difference. Like, if I need to do the dishes, I just do them. Maybe I'll put it off one day but then I'll do it and I get through all the dishes in one go and it's kinda amzing actually.

  12. I stop smoking cigarettes 21 years ago a pack a day. .. been sober 14 years. .. can get away from depression live in a 2k square foot house. .. i live in a closet for real

  13. thx for this ha bisky vid i had severe depression for so long that it just disappeared on its own when i can feel what lingers from it i am just like that is a thing and it passes pretty quickly

    as for doing my work i just figure out why i should do it with homework i knew there wasnt a point to it so i didnt do it until high school college was my motivation

    they dont hold you back for not doing homework in middle school they always let you pass as long as you can pass the standardized tests even then those will just send you to the worst schools that have the least amount of funding it seems

    it depends on what you want and if the homework is to much maybe you can make it so you get less homework now by actually finding out what you should be learning for your grade and if you are in middle school its not physics and hold the school accountable for teaching you college level work when you are in 7th grade

  14. Ive got willpower quit smoking 19 years ago a pack a day … stop drinking 14 years ago. …. cant beat depression. ……

  15. What is the difference between the lack of focus and motivation with depression compared to having ADHD/ADD? If you can sit and enjoy fun stuff all day and not homework or work?

  16. sometimes I have to call my friend and ask her to tell me to do something like make food because I can't do it otherwise, but her simply telling me to (not in a stern way either) really helps when my motivation is 0

  17. This was a great video! Speaking to me, but I have no motivation, I don't set goals, and I am accountable to no one. I also refuse to be responsible for myself. I am on medication and recently started seeing my therapist again. She's great! I'm not in the best place right now. Sorry. Don't know how long I can keep doing this.

  18. Medication just doesn't work me. I've tried way more than 5 and still have no motivation or energy. Even with a job, taking a shower and washing myself, or setting my hair in curlers for the next day I feel too lazy to do.
    Also, many medications are too expensive to even try! Along with any treatment. The price is way too prohibitive to help people in dire need. Then the whole process of trying to apply for disability is way too hard for me to do on my own. I need someone to do tasks for me.

  19. I know you might not see this, but what do you do if you can’t go to a therapist and aren’t allowed to take antidepressants? Besides setting small goals, is there anything you can do to force yourself to get productive and not want to quit?

  20. i cant see someone…i have severe social anxiety and cant get outside my room most of the time. i have no friends. There are nobody in my familiy i can talk to. There is nothing giving me any joy. I have not been happy for for 12 years. I have no interests, hobbies or anything to do. I cant sleep,eat or stop thinking about killing myself.

  21. How do I get my mom to understand/ care about my depression?? Im 14 and i've been severely depressed, among other things, since I was about 7, my mom doesn't even try to comprehend my depression. She just yells and screams at me about things i can't control, like when my room is a disaster, or I can't get out of bed, or when I get a little annoyed everything. She doesn't know anything about it, and I think she just thinks that depression is just sadness. I just want her to understand the constant struggle of getting through every day and not even wanting to be alive, but she won't even try. I've texted her multiple videos everyday, (because i'm too scared to talk to her about it in person), for at least a month but she just wouldn't watch it. You're my best bet at this because there is really no one else I can talk to about this.

  22. sometimes when I don't feel like I can get out of bed I turn music on and take my speakers with me to the bathroom or the kitchen or wherever

  23. I know what's wrong in my life and I know how to turn it around. I'm self aware of the things I say and do but I ultimately just do nothing and eat. I want to lose weight again and wear nice clothing and dance and get a job but I just can't

  24. I just have no desire to do anything apart from staying in bed. I used to love playing violin but I don't as much anymore just because I feel like "what's the point". Talking to people exhausts me. It's not that I'm sad, I just don't have the energy to feel anything except tired

  25. I’m just crying right now because the feeling of hopelessness is so overwhelming. You mentioned having goals. I so do have goals. It just feels like sometimes I’ve been wasting my life away in bed. Because I don’t feel like I’m worthy of achieving those goals and every time i try something always stands in my way and it’s back in the bed. I hope soon I can have a normal life.

  26. I cant even get the motivation when I know that I NEED to do it so for when I cant wash my hair or get out of bed I say im ill and don't leave the house or when I haven't done my hw (barely ever) I say ive lost or forgotten it and it ends up stacking up until ive just got so much work today and I sometimes do it extremely rushed, however most of the time I feel bored and sad and lay in my bed doing nothing when I know there is so much to do. is my depression causing this or am I just lazy and unmotivated? bcz I cant get myself to do anything even though I know how important it is I just wanna lay in bed all day and sleep.

  27. This really helped me recognize that my mother was right, telling me something is wrong with me. I lost all motivation to even do anything at all. If I don't have to, I won't get out of bed. I lost enjoyment from my hobbies. I'm not sure what to do anymore.

  28. You are a really good person, well I don't know you but it's important to know. YouTube should really prioritize this type of video it's things people need

  29. I’m supposed to be leaving for a music festival today, and I’m so depressed and anxious that I’m half considering staying home. This video has been really helpful to boost my mood enough to get up and do my laundry. Thank you for everything you do Kati.

    Side note, I regularly see a therapist and have an appointment with a psychiatrist for medication management once I get back from my trip, so no need to worry. 🙂

  30. Does anyone have any advice on what can be done for somebody without a support network? I am getting in contact with psychologists via my GP but the wait is LONG, I need medicine but I have no means of transport, not much money, and struggle to get out of bed let alone take public transport.

  31. Oh I LOVE this format for answering questions, the whole stickinote message/gamer mini camera thing is great. I'd love to see you bring that back. Just an aesthetic note. get it? NOTE! lol

  32. I use Jessica Gimeno's system. On days I don't feel like doing anything (so not everyday), I make a list of essential stuff that must get done by today or tomorrow, give myself permission to do only those things, rank them on a difficulty scale from 1-3, do the 1s first, then the 2s, then the 3s. Then if I still feel like it I do some more. Or sometimes I just relax.
    Usually after doing a bunch of 1s, I feel entirely better and ready to conquer the rest of the list. It gets a little hard when I hit the 3s but I try to keep going. Even if I don't get them all done, I still have accomplished a lot more than I would've otherwise.

  33. I love how she addresses these topics without being patronizing or acting like “you need to just figure it out.” She is so cheerful and encouraging and makes me feel like I’m not alone, and it’s awesome.

  34. I love your vids! I find them helpful, and you seem to have an easy, kind manner when you speak. 🙂
    Have you made any vids on how to select a therapist? My last therapist stopped seeing clients, so I find myself in need of selecting a new one. I’m just not sure what I should be looking for, as I’m not sure what type(s) of therapy would best help me.

  35. I can so relate to this. I'm on medication again but really struggling to motivate myself. Thanks for the vid. 👍

  36. 1) okay but what if I don't have the motivation to find a therapist? there's an office for counseling at my university but i have to call to make an appointment and i keep forgetting and when i do remember i put it off just like i put everything else off.
    2) there may or may not be things i enjoy doing, but i've been clinically depressed for so long that i genuinely don't know, and trying to do anything for the sole purpose of joy feels like a waste of time when there are all these texts and emails waiting to be answered and homework to do textbooks to read, how could i possibly have time to do anything that isn't absolutely urgent? and everything is absolutely urgent because i've put it off and i will continue to put it off
    3) i understand on some level that i am capable of very little currently, but that is still unacceptable. making a to-do list including the small things that are actually accomplishments for me just confronts me with the guilt and shame of being at this point where changing out of my pajamas is an accomplishment.
    4) i have some long-term goals, but given the current state of my life (my own well-being, but also all of the external factors) it seems impossible. or at least incredibly unlikely. holding out hope for a pipe dream feels foolish and i don't want to get my hopes up only to be disappointed.
    5) the aforementioned guilt and shame hold me back from being genuinely honest and vulnerable with anyone in my life who could be that accountability buddy. i know that inevitably, i will stay in bed all day, and i don't want to disappoint a second person.
    now, i don't expect anyone to solve this for me. i'm just so frustrated and exhausted with depression help tips where i don't meet the barrier for entry because i'm too depressed. am i just too far gone? too broken? too fucked up to ever live a decent life? i'm watching myself sit idly by while my life passes me by day after day and sure maybe trying to find help in youtube videos is a mistake but searching "productive with depression" and clicking a video (and ranting about it) is about all i can manage right now.

    i'm just tired.

  37. Hi, I just wanted to mention, from own experience. Depression can lead you to forget about hygiene, and diet and most importantly what this comment is about (drinking enough water). I went through a phase where I had no motivation due to traumatic effects, but realised this lead to drinking lack of water- which magnified my depression into a more intense feeling. I drank water at least 2 litres a day, and I started to feel like I could manage it a bit better. I had to share this, thanks.

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