Man thinks about divorcing his obese wife. [Hello Counselor / 2017.08.14]

Man thinks about divorcing his obese wife. [Hello Counselor / 2017.08.14]


Why didn’t you try persuading her gently, encouraging her to lose weight? At first, I said it gently. How? Lose weight. (That’s very gentle all right) But she wouldn’t listen. What makes me angry is that she likes to party. She does? She invites her friends over often. She’s a good cook. Those who eat a lot usually know how to cook. Many obese people like eating their own food. The tiger is running wild. (Convenience store / Parties / Cooking skills) How many times a week does she hold parties? 2 or 3 times a week. That’s quite often. Do you think it’s because she likes people? Or does she want to eat a lot of food? Both. What do you normally cook for people? Glass noodles with chili peppers. It’s hard to cook that at home. I make fried chicken. You fry chicken yourself? At home? We have a fryer at home. That’s just about everything. What else? Spicy sea snails. I make all kinds of food. I’d like to come over one day. (Come over anytime) I think your friends are here with you. Hello. (What do they think?) Hello. Whose concern is bigger in your opinion? He has been working out hard even after they got married. But she just eats and drinks at parties. She’s still gaining weight. Her friends and family are worried about her so we’ve nagged at her and cussed at her. But she just laughs it off. (I love eating) Who are you? I’m her friend’s husband. What do you think after hearing their stories? I understand how the husband feels. When they have parties, he’s always the one cleaning up. Because she doesn’t move. You do everything at home? She cooks. But I do everything else. She won’t clean up. She probably doesn’t know where the recycling bin is. Then just don’t do it. Then the house becomes a mess. It would be chaotic. She doesn’t move around at all at home? No, she doesn’t. She asks me to get her things. If I tell her to clean, she just says, “You’ll clean anyway.” It’s a habit now. At first, I thought you were overreacting that she gained a lot of weight after getting married, but it does sound like a problem. Why do you make him do all the chores? Since I’ve gained weight, I’ve become quite slow. I was a bit slow even before I got fat. If he leaves it, I would clean it up someday. How long have you been married? We’ve been married for 2 years. How would you feel if your wife gradually gains weight and doubles in size? If we walk down the street, I wouldn’t walk right next to her. Really? (But she’s still your wife) She just glared at you. (Hmph!) How does it feel when you go out with her? I just pass by her like we are strangers. – You just walk ahead of her? / – Yes. It’s not just because she gained weight. Men from Gyeongsang-do are like that. (Why should that matter?) When you’re out and about… Aside from your Gyeongsang-do traits, are you ever embarrassed by her? Yes. Are you two affectionate towards each other? I really love to be affectionate. When I go near him, he says, “Pig! Go lose weight first.” He won’t even hold my hand. Did you get hurt when he said that? Yes, it hurt. Wait. Your friend has something to say. She doesn’t get hurt. If she’s hurt, she would try to lose weight. But no matter what we say to her, she just laughs. When was the last time you two were affectionate? I don’t even remember. He hates it. Couldn’t you try to be more affectionate? Is it because she gained weight? I don’t normally like being affectionate. I really don’t. (I’m sorry I asked) You didn’t like it even when she was skinny? I didn’t even then, but we were intimate because she was skinny. But when I’m drunk, I do become affectionate. She looks skinny when I’m drunk. He drank quite a bit. (Optical illusion) She makes me drink more. On purpose? To make you be affectionate? She won’t try to lose weight. Instead, she makes me drink more. (I am shocked when I wake up) You say you two aren’t affectionate, but you have another child. Right. (How did that happen?) Two years ago, I made her work out at the gym. She lost 20kg then. 80kg! Yes. So she looked so beautiful. She looked beautiful even when I wasn’t drunk. That’s when she got pregnant? Yes. I heard that things got even worse at one point. We had a big fight once. We talked about getting a divorce. I asked for a divorce and she said yes. We decided to meet in court so I went. She never showed up. So I called her. I asked her where she was and she was at home. She was with her mother. She said her mom brought boiled duck with rice. She told me to come and eat. Did the divorce talk go out the window? I said okay and went home. (It tasted good) How cute. Even when you know the other isn’t serious, people tend to get worried. You didn’t think he was serious at all? I didn’t know he really meant it. I didn’t think he was really going to court. He loves to eat food that I’ve cooked. In order to eat my food, he must stay married to me. So you did go home to eat the duck? He came over right away. – As soon as I could. / – As soon as he could. I can bear everything else, but I can’t stand being hungry. (An easy way to stop a divorce) (An expert’s way of dealing with it) She knows exactly what to do. As long as she feeds him food and gives him drinks her problems are solved. What you worry about the most is her health, right? Obesity is the cause of all illnesses. I’m quite worried. She got a physical examination before coming here. Let’s take a look. (Body composition analysis) She has 29kg of muscles. It’s slightly above the average. But her body fat percentage is 50%. It means half of her body is fat. She must lose 36.9 kg. She must lose 36.9 kg of fat. She has to lose 36.9 kgs of fat to have a normal weight. This shows that you’re severely overweight. With a larger the body mass index, you could lose 13, 14 years of your life. You should be quite worried. Shouldn’t you lose weight for your health? You saw the result. After getting a checkup, I found out that I’m severely obese. But my cholesterol and blood sugar levels are normal. So I was relieved. That’s why I continued to eat and sleep. Please tell us what you eat in one day. I eat breakfast at my store. It’s all right. (Embarrassed) I lay out the food on the table. Two hamburgers, one lunch box, one rice roll, 3 rice balls… That’s for breakfast. Then for lunch… About the same as your breakfast? You should stop eating leftover food from your store. Even by doing that… They’re fattening food. When you have a lot of leftovers, you’ll eat more. What others eat in a day, you eat in a single meal. That’s what it is. You even eat snacks between meals, right? Then you eat dinner and you eat before sleeping. That’s why you’re gaining weight. You should eat one meal throughout the day. I’ll do my best. If you eat because you think it’s a waste, you’ll end up spending more on your health. You try to save this much and end up losing so much more. (It’s sad, but he’s right) You’re not just making a promise with your husband, but with everyone else who’s watching this. You’ll feel more responsible about your promise. Why don’t you say what you want? Don’t make a ridiculous request. You weighed 105kg two days ago. Then let’s say she weighs 106kg today. I don’t need anything else. Just show me you’re trying to lose weight. Then I’ll begin to be affectionate. If you lose more weight, I’ll be more affectionate. Lose some weight. If you are this confident, you must be quite good. (He won’t deny it) This is what he wants. How much weight will you lose by when? Since you want me to weigh 70kg, I’ll do my best to achieve that. But please speak gently to me and be more affectionate to me. There are studies that show being affectionate can help a person lose weight. Be really affectionate like this. You can lose weight by kissing a lot, right? No, not by kissing. Then what? You can’t do it alone. I’ll never be able to do it. You need a coach to work out. (Right) Jang Moonvok, you first. I think it’s a concern. Son Hoyoung. I’ll press it to encourage you. I’m sure it’s quite hard for you right now. You’re smiling all the time. I know how that feels. You’re smiling, but you’re stressed on the inside. You have to relieve that stress so you do it by eating. You can direct that stress somewhere else. You can do it. Thank you. I also think it’s a concern. But if she gradually works on it, it’ll be solved. You can do it. If you can relate to the husband, please press the button. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Time’s up. Please say a word to your husband. I’ll try to slim down to 70kg. And I’ll try to do chores around the house. I love you. (We’ll see you on “Hello News”) Please show us the result. “Fraudulent marriage.” It ends with 9. The first one got 159 votes. Is it over 100? 99 votes. (They got 99 votes)

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